Should You Write Your Own Vows?

One of the most challenging things on your wedding may be writing your own vows. Due to the

enormous number of details, you are arranging, preparing, and completing, they can easily slip

your mind. You may already be aware of whether you will follow the customary vows or create

your own. However, if you are unsure of the best course to take, we offer some advice to make

your own choice easier.

If you have a fear of public speaking…

Anyone might feel anxious when speaking in front of a large crowd, including their relatives. It

could be wise to have your officiant repeat the usual wedding vows if you hate public speaking.

You will not need to memorize anything or read from a piece of paper. Additionally, losing

yourself in the eyes of your true love will make you forget about everyone else in the room.

If you have a unique love story that you want to acknowledge…

The customary vows may not be sufficient for some couples to convey their love for one

another. This is the time to say anything you need to if you have anything to say. There will

never be a time in your life when you are more open to the person you love. Tell the person

you are dedicating your life to everything you are thinking and feeling.

If you are worried about time…

The conventional vows must be known by all officiants, which makes it simple for them to make

last-minute changes. Tell your officiant that you would prefer to write personalized vows but anticipate them to use the usual language if you don’t think you will have enough time to

commit to writing thoughtful vows.

Although you cannot go wrong either way, we strongly recommend writing your own vows. Use

that opportunity to express how deeply you feel about your person.